sam & HIM
How it started in 2019
I received a text message around 6pm on a Friday night. The text message read “I am in the passenger seat of my car, my boyfriend is threatening to kill me by wrecking the car. If I live through this I'm going to hire you to help me get him out of my life if you can.” That was the beginning of a lengthy surveillance case. When I first met with Sam she said I'm sorry to me at least 12 times in the first 20 minutes. I told her I can tell you are being abused because you keep telling me your are sorry for unusual things.
Our first week of surveillance we saw HIM meet with the girl at the park. The meeting seemed to be the first time they were meeting one another. We inform Sam of the meeting but it was not enough evidence to get HIM to leave. Sam, being a honest person told HIM that we had seen him at the park. They had a big fight Him continue living in the house.
On the second week, we set up a phony Tinder account and HIM contacted us within three hours of the account being live. We had five female investigator surrounding the car at the meeting point that was prearranged with HIM. Sams was so upset that she had already gathered up his clothing and put it in her car so she could ask him to leave after she caught him with this new woman which was our private investigator. Sam and HIM past each other on the road about 30 minutes before the meeting was to occur. They pulled over to speak to each other, Him asked her why she had his things in the backseat. Sam began to cry, she said I know you're cheating and you're going to be leaving I can't put up with this anymore. We have a conversation recorded and you can hear HIM saying oh please baby you know I love you just give me an hour. I'm just going to have pizza with the boys. He kept on begging her not to throw him out add to please trust him. Sam was crying hard as they parted ways. We waited in the parking lot add the appointed time but HIM was late. He had a habit of meeting girls after dark so that it would be difficult to get a clear video. He told Sam many times that he did not care if she had him followed.
HIM arrived in the parking lot and pulled up next to our investigator. Our investigator was wearing a hidden camera and lapel microphone. Are investigator was instructed to give us a hand signal to let us know when she wanted us to approach the vehicle. Five female investigators were watching the vehicle where HIM and our investigator were sitting. Amy said she giving the signal? I said I can't tell it's getting too dark. Amy said I think she's giving the signal. Are investigator had been in the car for three minutes so we just decided to move in. I motioned for Sam to roll towards HIM. Sam pulled up behind the vehicle where the two were sitting inside the vehicle. Sam open up the driver side door of the vehicle and said I thought you just told me you loved me 30 minutes ago?!! You have to get out of my house! Here's your stuff! HIM started saying in a loud voice she is not my girlfriend she's my sugar mama. HIM said that on the recording three times as our investigator was exiting his vehicle. She is my Sugar Mama! First Sam pulled out of the parking lot then our investigator, then three investigators rolled out with Sam and two investigator stayed in the parking lot watching HIM. Sam had placed his personal belongings in a bag at the back of his vehicle on the ground. After sitting in his vehicle for about two minutes he exited the vehicle walk to the back of the vehicle looked at his belongings and got a huge grin on his face. Then he called Sam and told her oh I'm coming home and the door better be unlocked. Sam told him do not come to my house or I will call the police. He said call the police bitch and I'll burn your house down while you're asleep in your kids will not make it through the night. So even though I was telling Sam do not let him come home, Sam let him come home. HIM sent our investigator a text message saying I can't believe you were in on this! HIM had been talking to our investigator for 48 hours before the meeting. HIM went to Sam’s home and played World of Warcraft till dawn.
Around the same time HIM had a job opportunity for the first time in 10 years. HIM had graduated welding school after his father passed away and left him enough money to go to welding school. The school helped out with job placement in HIM went to work. So are surveillance continued. HIM always told little lies, like he said he was sitting in the McDonald's parking lot eating his lunch. That was not accurate. He was sitting across the street in the Walgreens parking lot eating his lunch. I know that seems like a small thing and there's no reason to lie about it but lying about the small things practice for tail in the big lie.
HIM would sit in the parking lot of his new job with his music at full blast. He had a stereo system that was so big in his car he had to get a larger alternator to keep his battery charged. Eventually, he play the music so loud that it blew out the back windshield. For some reason he really enjoyed the rebellious behavior of playing his music so loud you could hear his music about a courter mile away. He made many comments to Sam about getting an automatic weapon and shooting up at church before he leaves this earth.
HIM was coming out of a Mexican food restaurant near his work and we saw two women walking behind him who appeared to know him. Of course, he was aware he should not do anything in the parking lot because he knew he was being followed. HIM was 33 years old but claimed he only like to date younger women who were overweight because he said those girls have low self-esteem.
During the time that all of this was happening, Sam bought a new house in a very nice neighborhood. She begged me on the phone to help her keep HIM out of her new home. I could not stop HIM from moving into her home but I did go tell everyone of the neighbors what was going on. I let them know that a very successful business woman was moving into their neighborhood and that she was in a abusive relationship and we needed their help. I gave everyone in the neighborhood his phone number his car and his description. Then I began praying very specific prayers for Sam and her new neighborhood. On July 3 2021, HIM moved out of her house forever.
I think after Sam realized how much her neighbors would help her and gave her the strength to tell the police what was going on. On July 4, 2021 Sam house today fireworks event in front of her home on the street and the neighbors came out to celebrate with her.
A year later Sam had her day in court where HIM what is sentence to one year anger management, drug counseling and probation. When Sam left the court room she ran to her car. HIM ran to his car and I have a recording of him screaming obscenity is at her. He was screaming I didn't go to jail you didn't get what you wanted! Sam was screaming leave me alone stay away from me. That was their last encounter.
Fast forward to December 17, 2022, I was invited to a party at Sam's house. After I had been social with everyone and I was planning on leaving I walked over and stood next to Sam's 18 year old daughter. Even typing this year now it makes me tear up. I said before I leave I just wanted to introduced myself I'm Renee. She stood there in silence looking like she was trying to hold back tears. She said I don't even know what to say to you. Then she paused. She looked me dead in my eye and said thank you for getting HIM out of here. Then the two of us stood there in silence. You know it's not easy to face individuals who have violent anger issues. And a scary as it is for me as an outsider it is 100 times scarier for the people who live in the house with the angry individual. I would say one of the most difficult things for any person is to watch another person be abused. After receiving Sam's initial text message she had me because I have been the one in the passenger seat when my boyfriend threatened to kill me. So I will end with this, don't pass judgment on someone in an abusive relationship. The reasons a person stays in the abusive relationship are complicated. Every case is different and it's a tough call to get involved with people who are being abused. This one worked out for the best for everyone involved. It took about 6 months for Sam to decompress. Now we talk almost everyday.
June 29, 2023, I received a call from Sam just to say it has been 3 years now since he exited her life. Sam is as happy as she has ever been in her life. She found out that she is attractive, capable and worthy.
